I read with interest this past week that Prince Harry and his beautiful bride Meghan will no longer be known as “royal highnesses.” My first thought was that while it may be difficult to adjust to not being known as something you’re used to being called (especially in Prince Harry’s case), it’s a step in the right direction in their plan to step away from life with the royal family. Seemingly never one to conform to societal norms since he was a youngster, this is probably right up Prince Harry’s alley.
I began to think about the many titles we gain and lose in our lives and how the change in status can affect our lifestyles. For instance, when a woman gets a divorce, she is no longer a “Mrs.” – and losing the title may symbolize a desired freedom. For other women, it may be the beginning of a long hard adjustment not being known as Mrs. “___” anymore. Even if you want the divorce, it’s difficult to adjust to not being a Mrs. after a number of years. In my case, I got married the first time at age 24, was married for about 10 years, divorced, got married again at age 39, and divorced 13 years later. I’ve been a Mrs. half of my existence, and each time I lost my title, I was thrust into a situation where I had to renew myself. No doubt a big adjustment; yet growth as well.
Whether or not the situation is planned, now is the time to forge a new life, and such is the case with Harry and Meghan. No matter what title you hold, no matter how many degrees you’ve earned or how many movies you’ve starred in – you are still you. A title doesn’t define who the Divine Creator formed you to be. Nor does it define your character, integrity, level of self-esteem and so on – you are still you. The growth in losing a title or status comes in because you don’t have it to hide behind anymore. The ego is being challenged and you are forced to face the new you, in whatever capacity it comes. The same can be said for a title you gain or currently hold – it acknowledges recognition for your accomplishment – but it does not designate who you are at your core.
As Shakespeare said, “A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” You could call a rose a potato…but won’t it still be a fragrant little spud? It matters not whether Harry and Meghan – or you or me – are known by certain titles. What matters is the genuineness of our hearts and that we acknowledge and know who we are.