If you Can’t Change Your Situation…Change your Perception
Sometimes we can really get all up in our feelings about something. Those are the times that we should acknowledge that perception is everything.
In my younger days, PMS hit me hard. I was weepy, cranky and craved salty sweet snacks. The slightest comment that I would normally brush off my shoulder would have me in tears. And even now, in the newest “season” of my life, I experience days when I am a bit more sensitive than others; when something is a bit….off. But through all of these times, at some point I realized that how I viewed things through the lens of my PMS status was quite different from other times of the month.
Recently, I was all up in a tizzy about a situation and I decided it was time to dial back and determine whether I needed to make a change. Decisions, decisions…after talking with a couple of people, I decided to hang in there with my situation. But through my discussion, and through my own quiet moments of reflection, one thing stood out – if I am going to make “hanging in there” work, I have to change my perception of the situation to make it through.
Things like listing the “bright spots” of the situation as best you can, and dwelling on those is helpful. Or maybe you could adopt the premise of the quote by Regina Brett – “If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.” Living in a state of gratefulness alone changes the course of things – its how the Universe is set up! Looking at our situation while symbolically walking in the shoes of another opens our eyes to the fact that our very worst could be someone else’s unimaginable best.
Not to negate or make light of your genuine feelings; because let’s face it, sometimes it’s difficult to see the silver lining when you’re deep in “it”. Someone telling you to be grateful doesn’t sound like the music you need to hear. You want to grovel, complain and have a pity party! Well, do so, but then…move on! I am a firm believer, and I say this all the time, that God never wants us to settle – but he also wants us to be ready for what he has to give.
So – until we get where we think we want to go, we should stop and smell the roses right here rather than trample through them to get to the next best thing. There may be a time when you’ll realize the next best thing was right in front of you all the time.
Hi, it’s me, Janine Lattimore and I want to inspire and encourage you to #keepgoing! Based in the Atlanta, Georgia area, and among the many other hats I wear, I’m a writer, mother and Editor in Chief for Classy Living Society, a women’s only national community service organization. I’m here to share philosophy, inspiration, humor, a bit of inside info and tidbits I learned along life’s beautiful journey. Welcome!