Online Dating…Is it for You? Is it for Anybody??
*INSERT BIG SIGH HERE*
I’ve been single for a few years now, and I’ve tried the online dating game a time or two. I will have to say that while I don’t think it’s a total wash because of the funny stories I can tell and the experience I’ve gained – online dating is not for me. It may just be me, of course, and not the blame of the technological meet market, but each time I attach myself to one of these platforms, genuine success and I just don’t connect. And neither do me and Prince Charming.
I’ve met an interesting cast of characters: the one who was separated from his wife, and “getting ready” to divorce, yet they still lived under the same roof (“Call me – but don’t call me after 9pm!” – really? Bye bye!). And yes, the ones who you have the greatest conversations with on the phone and online into infinity and beyond, but they just never seem to get around to asking to meet you in person! Then, there’s the one or two who want to get married immediately after laying eyes on you.
At the age of 50+ and fabulous, I have to choose between whether to be a cougar or if the man of my dreams is closer to my age group. My choices have run closer to my age group – but, no offense to some of you 50+ guys out there – I haven’t met the one who is a match for my youthful spirit. AND who is truthfully single and ready to mingle (may I see the executed, notarized and sealed official court order which is also signed by the judge from your divorce, please?).
A recent article in O Magazine (January 2019 edition), entitled “A Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating,” is humorous in its honesty. (Link at the end of this blogpost) It includes such true confession stories as:
- I got a surprise phone call – from his wife!
- He sent a really personal photo!
- He sent me a Venmo request for my half of the bill!
and my favorite:
- They’re cute! They’re fun! They vanish! (ghosting, anyone?)
I’m telling you, it’s the kind of thing that you can easily call funny but not funny. (Laugh, sob, laugh, repeat)…
Are there people who hook up online and go on to have lasting, loving, living relationships? Yes, ma’am – yes sir! Think about it – if there weren’t, online dating sites probably wouldn’t exist. Yet, there they are, and more and more customized sites are emerging. If for nothing else, I’ve heard plenty of great love stories, and at the very least, people who have developed worthwhile friendships that last a lifetime.
Meanwhile, this girl has given up on online dating…at least until the next promising dating app comes along… Until then, I’m gonna keep my love light shining bright! He’s out there somewhere…I just know it.
Please share your online dating stories with me in the comments – I know you have some and I’d love to hear them!
O Magazine article here: https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a25776713/guide-to-online-dating/
Hi, it’s me, Janine Lattimore and I want to inspire and encourage you to #keepgoing! Based in the Atlanta, Georgia area, and among the many other hats I wear, I’m a writer, mother and Editor in Chief for Classy Living Society, a women’s only national community service organization. I’m here to share philosophy, inspiration, humor, a bit of inside info and tidbits I learned along life’s beautiful journey. Welcome!