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Online Dating…Is it for You? Is it for Anybody??

Online Dating…Is it for You? Is it for Anybody??

*INSERT BIG SIGH HERE*

Online dating….

I’ve been single for a few years now, and I’ve tried the online dating game a time or two.  I will have to say that while I don’t think it’s a total wash because of the funny stories I can tell and the experience I’ve gained – online dating is not for me.  It may just be me, of course, and not the blame of the technological meet market, but each time I attach myself to one of these platforms, genuine success and I just don’t connect.  And neither do me and Prince Charming.

I’ve met an interesting cast of characters: the one who was separated from his wife, and “getting ready” to divorce, yet they still lived under the same roof (“Call me – but don’t call me after 9pm!” – really? Bye bye!). And yes, the ones who you have the greatest conversations with on the phone and online into infinity and beyond, but they just never seem to get around to asking to meet you in person!  Then, there’s the one or two who want to get married immediately after laying eyes on you.

At the age of 50+ and fabulous, I have to choose between whether to be a cougar or if the man of my dreams is closer to my age group.  My choices have run closer to my age group – but, no offense to some of you 50+ guys out there – I haven’t met the one who is a match for my youthful spirit.  AND who is truthfully single and ready to mingle (may I see the executed, notarized and sealed official court order which is also signed by the judge from your divorce, please?).

A recent article in O Magazine (January 2019 edition), entitled “A Grown Woman’s Guide to Online Dating,” is humorous in its honesty.  (Link at the end of this blogpost)  It includes such true confession stories as:

  • I got a surprise phone call – from his wife!
  • He sent a really personal photo!
  • He sent me a Venmo request for my half of the bill!
    and my favorite:
  • They’re cute! They’re fun! They vanish! (ghosting, anyone?)

I’m telling you, it’s the kind of thing that you can easily call funny but not funny. (Laugh, sob, laugh, repeat)…

Are there people who hook up online and go on to have lasting, loving, living relationships?  Yes, ma’am – yes sir!  Think about it – if there weren’t, online dating sites probably wouldn’t exist.  Yet, there they are, and more and more customized sites are emerging.  If for nothing else, I’ve heard plenty of great love stories, and at the very least, people who have developed worthwhile friendships that last a lifetime.

Meanwhile, this girl has given up on online dating…at least until the next promising dating app comes along…  Until then, I’m gonna keep my love light shining bright!  He’s out there somewhere…I just know it.

Please share your online dating stories with me in the comments – I know you have some and I’d love to hear them!

O Magazine article here: https://www.oprahmag.com/life/relationships-love/a25776713/guide-to-online-dating/

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Sheila R. Emerson
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Sheila R. Emerson

I think I’m old fashion when It comes to dating. However, I did try the online dating, and it was not great. The personal picture sender, the guy with a great conversation, but never a face to face. While the dating sites may work for some individuals, it’s not for me. In the meantime, congratulations to those who find love…

MJ Jackson
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MJ Jackson

Yes, online dating is for entertainment purposes. The guys I’ve met are not really serious. They talk out of both sides of their mouths. If you work so many hours and you can’t make the time for a person. Why are you on the site? If you are not working, why are you on the site. Don’t ask me for my number just to text me. It was true entertainment. For those that found their match with online dating Congratulations!

Cheryl Hanson
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Cheryl Hanson

“I’m gonna keep my love light shining bright! He’s out there somewhere…I just know it.”

Yes he is. Keep smiling

Tara Lambert
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Tara Lambert

Online Dating…absolutely not!! I’ve never even entertained the thought of putting myself out there to attract someone. My friends however have urged me to give it a try, thinking I need to date just for fun. One of my friends did meet her husband on EHarmony about 10 years ago. I was happy for her but, it still didn’t interests me. To be honest my biggest fear is running across a nut case. I’ve seen too many horror stories on the news that don’t end well. Not too mention the list things stated in the article of the games people… Read more »

Terry Denham
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Terry Denham

I’ve met most if my past other halfs using online dating. I had actually grown to enjoy it (well, maybe enjoy is too strong) but I had accepted and adapted to it pretty well. Like you, this time around, my heart’s just not in it. Maybe because I met my last guy organically and enjoyed that process so much more. I find that guys online just dont try hard enough. They have this inflated ego that comes from thinking we’re desperate, so they dont even try to win us. I’m with you on this one. I’ll wait patiently for my… Read more »

Carolyn Zakers
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Carolyn Zakers

I’ve tried online dating and i’m over it. However, I think it could work if you are willing to do the work. Dating is like a fulltime job and sometimes it requires lots of work. For instance, you may have to go on quite a few dates, filter though many emails, delete many emails, ignore many direct messages, look at many profiles wondering how the heck these guys think that I would be interested in them, and if you’re lucky you might find that special someone.

Roberta Bogany
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Roberta Bogany

I met my husband online almost 3 years ago. Like you, I had met a cast of characters and kissed a few frogs. Online dating can be a good thing but it takes time and knowing some of the “tricks of the trade”. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I knew exactly the things you were describing!

I shared some of what I learned in my journey on my podcast. Here is s link to that episode.

http://talktime2.buzzsprout.com/216515/844173-ttwr02-online-dating

arpitts
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arpitts

I guess it’s a toss up. I have a few friends who’ve been happily married for years and they connected on line. On the other hands…some of my family members have tried it and they weren’t so successful. You take a chance either way.

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