Plant the Seeds to Solutions
As an overthinker and chronic worrier, I have learned that one of the best ways to avoid setting the wheels in motion to that negative thought process is to avoid talking about my problems over and over.
We all have problems and issues; the thorn in our side, as I talked about in last week’s post. We get on the phone with our relatives and friends and talk, talk, talk about the same issues over and over again. When I find myself doing this, I imagine that to others, I sound just like Charlie Brown’s teacher (Wah-wah, wah wah wah!). It’s nice to receive empathy and a bit of advice from others, but there comes a time when you have to stop talking, and start doing. There comes a time when you say to yourself, “I’m not going to talk about this same thing again!” When I talk about what’s going on, it’s going to be about what I’m doing about my problems, or asking for help in exploring adequate solutions. Talk about it once or twice, cry in your glass of wine or pint of ice cream – and then be about the business of healing and solving.
When you talk about the problem again and again, all it does is perpetuate the problem and the negative energy surrounding it! You magnify those things on which you choose to direct all of your focus. Think about it the next time you are talking and thinking about a negative situation and be mindful of how easy it is to dredge up feelings of stress, fear and anxiety. That’s not how problem solvers do it, it’s counterproductive! You’re using up energy that is best suited to figuring out what to do next.
That’s not to say that if you stop talking about the issue, it will go away. No ma’am, no sir! But talking about it doesn’t make it go away either. Norman Vincent Peale said “Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution.” Take the time to find those seeds, and plant them. Through practice, you will acquire the ability to control the dialogue that goes on in your head. Next thing you know, you are on your way to a more positive approach to your problems!
Hi, it’s me, Janine Lattimore and I want to inspire and encourage you to #keepgoing! Based in the Atlanta, Georgia area, and among the many other hats I wear, I’m a writer, mother and Editor in Chief for Classy Living Society, a women’s only national community service organization. I’m here to share philosophy, inspiration, humor, a bit of inside info and tidbits I learned along life’s beautiful journey. Welcome!