Last Saturday I got up early because I was super excited about a home project I had thought about and planned all week! Organizing my closet! Woo – hooo!!
It’s my life’s mission to live a minimalist and simple existence, and I think I’m halfway there and holding! Clean, neat, uncluttered spaces with room for lots of air to circulate puts me in my best zone. A quote by Karen Kingston, author and decluttering guru solidifies my philosophy: “Every aspect of your life is anchored energetically in your living space, so clearing clutter can completely transform your entire existence.” #frfr!
This especially goes for my closet – I’ve always wanted my closet to resemble those staged closets you see online, where everything goes together and all garments are hung on matching hangers and perfectly aligned on their rods. Alas, impulse shopping (and other bad habits) have stood in the way of success. For most of us, achieving the staged closet look means we have to get rid of stuff. The thought of purging anything makes many of us cringe – you mean I’ve got to get rid of my replica of Prince’s blazer from Purple Rain and my red & black Michael Jackson Beat It jacket?????
Here are five reasons why getting rid of items that have overstayed their welcome in our closets makes perfect sense:
- They no longer fit. To embrace the you who you are now, you’ve got to get rid of your “skinny” clothes. What better way to totally depress yourself than to look in your closet and see an entire section dedicated to clothing you wore when you were two sizes smaller. Yes, you vow that you’ll get into them again someday…but what about today? If it doesn’t fit, you must acquit (I just had to say that!)…those clothes and yourself! Free yourself, my dear, from the bondage of yesterday. I promise if you get back down to a previous size (a) you’re going to want to buy new clothes and a way will be made for you to do just that or (b) you can alter the old ones.
- You haven’t worn them in a year (or more!) If it’s a practice to put away your seasonal garments at the end of each season; pay special attention to those items you keep taking out and putting away but never wear! Get rid of it! Goodbye, ugly Christmas sweater!
- They don’t spark JOY. Google Marie Kondo, her book, her Netflix show and the Konmari Method. You’ll thank me later.
- You have items that don’t go with anything else in your closet. Purchasing an item that doesn’t go with anything else is usually an impulsive act. Not being able to match an item means you’ll end up having to buy an additional item that does go with it. The secret is to buy classic pieces that complement everything and build off of that. Most of these would be items you could wear twice a week and no one would notice you did.
- You regularly proclaim you have nothing to wear. Is this you? When you get ready for the day, you change into five different outfits before finding the right one that looks and feels good. Madness! On MOST days, you should be able to pull out an outfit, get dressed and get out the door! Who needs the extra added stress of not being able to find the right outfit on top of everything else you may have to deal with to start your day! If your closet contains the components of the “right” outfit, you never have to search!
Soooo….you’ve gone through your closet and PURGED! Congratulations! Now what?
Donate those items to an organization of your choice, i.e. a shelter for domestic violence victims. Give your career wear to a program that assists homeless women get into the workforce. Those evening gowns and formal attire? Donate them to The Enchanted Closet, or similar organization, that collects these items for teen girls to wear to proms. There are many worthy causes out there – imagine the smile on the face of a girl or woman who receives your donated items. Heartwarming! Of course, you could also sell them on consignment or on one of those online selling platforms like ThredUp, Offer Up, Ebay, etc. to make a few extra bucks – you know – to buy the smaller clothes you’ll need when you lose weight (wink!).
Dedicate time to your new closet – spend about 15 minutes per week straightening and tweaking your closet; coordinate it with laundry time! Regular maintenance cuts down on the possibility of cluttered closet disasters in the future.
Pretty it up – if there’s space, put a rug on the floor, add more lighting, pictures and mirrors on the wall, decorative hooks for scarves and other items – hook it up to resemble a boutique! Place a small step stool in there to get to those hard-to-reach items or to utilize the space on the very top shelves with ease. Pinterest has tons of ideas!
Getting rid of clutter frees your mind – brings about peaceful energy and helps you relax in your own space. I am so happy with my new closet – I can see everything, it’s much neater – it is amazing! Try it, I promise you’ll be happy you did!
A few years ago, I found myself caught up in a relationship that I really shouldn’t have been in. I had clearly overstayed my welcome in what was merely temporary, yet, I continued to linger. In hindsight, even though I knew it wasn’t for me, I kept trying to make it work. At the time, I confided in a good friend about my situation and her words still resonate with me: she doesn’t hang around in a situation that clearly isn’t good for her; if for no other reason than she’s excited to see what God has in store for her next.
What is your cue that tells you it’s time to make a move? Whether it’s a relationship, job, lifestyle, friendship…when do you know it’s time to let go of it? Here are 3 points of view I’ve adopted about the divine process of making a change:
Number One: What doesn’t happen for you is as much divine providence as what does happen for you. Have you ever looked back and rejoiced because an opportunity you thought was a good one didn’t work out?
Number Two: Know that when your heart and spirit isn’t into where you currently are, it’s okay to be there, but it’s not okay to stay there. Just the knowledge alone that you aren’t always meant to stay where you are is the first step to where God is leading you next.
Number Three: When you’ve outgrown the space you’re in, you will feel so uncomfortable! You will feel restless and experience an undeniable stirring in your spirit. Don’t ignore it. Listen to the small still voice inside. And then start packing, baby…because you’re on your way to your next adventure!
Until you stop holding tightly in your closed fists what isn’t for you, you will not be able to receive what’s supposed to be for you. Let it go! Open your hands, release the pebbles and receive your diamonds! Be excited to see what God has in store for you next.
“The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.” – Scott Peck