I have always been a fence straddler when it comes to making decisions – should I or shouldn’t I? Make a move/don’t make a move? Blaming it on being born under the astrological sign of Libra is really just an excuse; although being flaky about making decisions is a trait of people born under this sign. The sign with the scales – you know, it’s all about balance…
I make some decisions quite easily! Yet other decisions, not so easily, and I realized my indecisiveness is steeped in fear. Fear is a psychological response to something or someone you believe is going to harm you. Keeping this definition in mind, I realized that the situations where I had to make a decision, but had difficulty, were situations that triggered fear. The triggers were related to memories of similar instances that were tough times or that brought on anxiety. Let me give you an example.
Say you had some really difficult financial issues in the past, but you came out of it. Now it’s time to buy a house, but the thought of making a decision to actually sign on that 30-year mortgage dotted line dredged up about as much fear as seeing Michael Myers from the Halloween movie walking toward you. It’s not the actual act of signing on the dotted line that makes you fearful because you know your current financial situation gives you the green light. What triggers the fear is what happened in the past – the horrid remembrance of dodging and being harassed by bill collectors and seeing PAST DUE angrily stamped in red on those bill envelopes when you opened your mailbox. Making a big financial decision like buying a house triggers the anxiety of the time when you couldn’t make ends meet, and you’re afraid if you sign on that line, it’ll happen all over again.
But – what if it doesn’t happen again? What if that part of your life is gone forever, and now it’s time to live your best financial life! Now it’s time to buy and move into your dream home, but you choose not to allow yourself the experience because you’re scared of what happened before. Your dream home becomes a dream deferred – and for no concrete reason. Most things we worry about or are fearful of, never happen!
The next time fear inhibits you from making a decision and you know in your heart of hearts that it’s TIME for whatever it is – think about why you’re afraid. Is there a valid reason to shy away? If not, dear friend, it’s time to listen to your intuition and conquer that fear. It’s time to look Michael Myers in the eye and let him know you’re not afraid! Don’t let fear stop you from living the life you should be living. And if nothing else convinces you – remember – it is already divinely ordained that we live a life of prosperity and not harm.