“Love yourself enough to be able to say yes or no.” – Susan Gregg
I think I’ve finally arrived at the place where I am very comfortable doing (or not doing) whatever I feel!!
In the past, I’ve gotten myself into some real jams in the pursuit of “going along to get along.” Now, I am saying yes when I mean yes and no when I mean no, and I must say, it is quite liberating. It definitely keeps down the level of stress, pressure and drama when your response honors you.
One of my favorite books is Year of Yes by Shonda Rhimes. There were so many nuggets of knowledge in her story that carved a new path for me. Saying yes means saying yes to yourself, but sometimes it means saying no to others. Her story took me a long way in validating my own feelings and doing only the things that are asked of me that I have time for, that I feel capable of, and that I want to do. If you haven’t read her book, I highly recommend it, especially if you can’t seem to bring yourself to say yes to you.
A “no” response is a full and complete sentence (period!). To explain, or apologize for a “no” response means you aren’t secure with your stance, or that you owe an explanation for your response. When your answer is no, it’s just no – and “maybe” is never a substitution for no! Ha! Ahhh, the freedom!
And the absolute beauty is, there are no worries about what others will think or say about it. Being authentic rocks!!